Gentlemen and Ladies.
Just recently there has been a couple of threads started on the forum by members who are complaining about deals made and handled off this site. There was the DKiS fake but real thread a few weeks ago and now the helmet disaster.
I will make it perfectly clear that this forum is not to be used to air dirty laundry in public and nor is it a platform to be used to tell tales on another member - especially if you made an agreement or deal elsewhere.
It is completely wrong to ask members here to support you or take sides on something that we know little about, only hearing one side of the story or telling it with a self biased slant.
As always, there are two sides to every story and details are always omitted. There are a band of members here who are always too eager to jump on a bandwagon and slate another member for no reason and based solely on a single side of the tale. Not really a mature way to conduct yourselves.
With every deal or transaction you make, do it the right way. These things sound simple but very often are the cause of unnecessary confusion and upset.
Agree a price.
Agree a payment method and stick to it.
Agree a timescale to pay over or a date to finalise a complete payment and stick to it.
Don't change the deal halfway through.
Know who you're buying from.
Make sure you can honour the deal - both buyer and seller.
Be perfectly honest and up front about what you want and how you want it.
Agree your method of shipping.
Don't offer something for sale if you have no intention of selling it.
Decide who will incur any fees.
Agree on who will pay for shipping.
Agree on the type of shipping and if the buyer wants registered shipping and as the seller, you honour it.
Don't stretch yourself to buy something, keep things within your manageable means.
If you can't pay via the seller's requested method don't bother.
Most importantly, don't commit to a purchase if there is any risk of you not being able to complete it in the way you have agreed with the seller.
These are all so easy for adults to arrange. If during negotiations thing don't look good or you're uncomfortable, say no thank you and walk away. There is no deal worth all the hassle and name calling and damage to hard earned reputations for the sake of a bad seller or buyer. Don't risk it.
As I said before, this forum will not entertain on the public domain, any threads the like that we have seen recently where two adults seemingly can't sort things out by themselves without resorting to posting their tales of woe and trying to get public support. This is not a school playground.
If there is any problems directly associated with this site then please ask for advice but do it in a grown up manner and do not lower yourself to posting private messages in public without the other person's consent. By the very nature of PRIVATE messages, they are private and should not be disclosed openly for all to see. If the forum staff deem in necessary to see them then you forward them by PRIVATE message.
This is not a site like others where you can air your dirty laundry and get a ten page thread of rubbish and worthless posts. It might be entertaining elsewhere but they will be closed and deleted here. Public spectacles of humiliation and fighting died out with the ancient Romans. If you're an adult, act like one and use your adult common sense to decide your own fate in the militaria market place.
Don't come crying here when your own lack of judgement has let you down or you have been the one who has reneged on a deal and definitely not when it has happened elsewhere.